Buying or Building? The Struggle is Real!
My husband and I are in a new phase of life. We have found ourselves straddling
life as empty nesters, but knew our current home couldn’t house our future.
About 2 years ago we decided it was time to make a move. In all honesty, I didn’t
want to do it! Being a realtor, I am intimately aware of the hard work it takes to
find a home, and move.
If you are familiar with the enneagrams, I am a 1 wing 9
and like to declare myself as a recovering perfectionist. So, in the search for a
home, guess how many I liked?
Zero. I’m picky just like most buyers are.
Fast forward to February of 2022. Some friends were selling their home that
seemed like a great fit, but it just wasn’t for us. I know some of you have found
yourself in this place. Ready to move, but nothing worth the effort of moving!
This was the catalyst that pushed us to build a home we designed for ourselves.
Can you relate? If so, I wanted to share this experience with you.
We are almost finished building our new home in Evans. We picked an available
lot in a highly sought after community March of 2022, and started working on
plans. Because of the lot size, we needed a plan that fit the lot. I know so many
people dream of land and more space, but truthfully, I want neighbors and a low
maintenance yard. This then means there are setback lines that matter. It took
until May 2022 to get the plans finished.
The next step was to have the plan that we designed, priced to build so we could
get a contract together and get building permits. This is the second time we have
had a home built, so we were experienced, but not ready for the price tag!
Honestly, I should have known it would cost more that I expected. I tell people
this all the time. If you go this route, be prepared because it is more expensive
than buying a resale home. Also, some style homes are more costly to build, so
adjust your plans if needed.
FINALLY, in September of 2022 our home was started! This is the most exciting
part of the process, seeing the dirt move and the build begin. We had an
anticipated completion date in April 2023. This starts the conversation of selling
the home we are currently living in. When is the right time to sell? I have helped
people sell right away and I have helped people sell right before the new home is
finished. For me, I wanted to wait and I needed a LOT of time to get my house
ready to sell.
I wish I could say I handled selling well, but I didn’t. I wanted to make everything
perfect and drove my family crazy! I said I am a “recovering” perfectionist, not
recovered! The struggle is real.
To help myself, I had a realtor friend come look at my house and let me know if I
was ready to list it and how my pricing sounded. I am a realtor who got the
advice and perspective of another realtor. It’s funny.
Anyhow, in March of 2023, we listed our home for sale and it is currently under
contract. Now, as I write this, I am in the process of packing and moving out of
my home. The excitement is big, but I wasn’t ready for the sadness that I’ve felt
as I prepare let this home go. 15 years have flown by here and it is hard to say goodbye, but we are so blessed to be looking forward to moving into a home we designed just for us sometime in
June of 2023. And the best part, a grand baby in July to help us fill the space with
amazing moments that celebrate the fabulous life we have built together.
Bottom line, I think building is a great option for the next phase of
homeownership when you are having trouble finding what you want on the
market. I hope that if you get the chance to build a home, first off, you’ll call a
good Realtor to help you navigate the process and secondly, you can afford all
you are dreaming of!